GENTLE READER: You are in charge. You get to make the rules. Miss Manners suggests that next time you pick up the kids, you say, “All right, everyone. Here are the ground rules.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My grandchildren, 10 and 7, are being taught to write thank-you notes by their lovely parents -- my son and daughter-in-law, who were also taught this when they were children.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My grandchildren, 10 and 7, are being taught to write thank-you notes by their lovely parents -- my son and daughter-in-law, who were also taught this when they were children.

Grandpa Ansel, the only grandparent I knew, died when I was only 7, yet he lives on clearly in my memories. That my son’s middle name is Ansel goes a long way in telling you how much I loved and ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My grandchildren, 10 and 7, are being taught to write thank-you notes by their lovely parents -- my son and daughter-in-law, who were also taught this when they were children.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My grandchildren, 10 and 7, are being taught to write thank-you notes by their lovely parents -- my son and daughter-in-law, who were also taught this when they were children.